Randy Westover

Most of the men I talk with are carrying more than they let on. Trauma, addiction, betrayal, and the constant pull of screens leave them depleted, distracted, and disconnected—from God, from others, and often from themselves. One of the most overlooked tools for restoration is also one of the oldest: time in God’s creation. Researchers have given this idea a practical shape. They call it the Nature Pyramid, often simplified into the 20-5-3 rule. Think of it as a prescription for how much...

Santa became how I viewed God. When I thought about it, they are both old guys with big, long beards who wanted people to be good. They both see and know all the bad stuff I did. So, I believed I needed to do good things and be better for goodness sake. As life went on, I continued to hear that voice in my head, “Have you been a good boy?”

Sometimes, we get stuck. A guy can do everything right—show up to groups, read the books, set boundaries. He’s got filters on his...